In a previous article I sorta kinda made reference to friendship and love. I think most of us know when a relationship is love-based. It ceases to be “a feeling” and becomes a way of life. How do you know when an acquaintance becomes a friend then becomes a best friend? You just do. All of a sudden you step back and say, “yeh, he/she is my best friend, and I love them.” At that point there is little more to be said and a lot more to do. Love is an active word. It is meant to be given away as a gift not hoarded. That’s just the nature of it.

15 Can a woman forget her baby at the breast, feel no pity for the child she has borne? Even if these were to forget, I shall not forget you. (Isaiah 49:15)

When I was younger I was introduced to the passage from John’s first letter (1 John 4:16) that God is love. Later on I looked at this passage again and compared it to what I knew of love. I came up with this premise. If God is love and true love is unconditional, then I cannot please or displease God. If I thought I could please God then God’s love is quid pro quo. In other words God’s love is conditional. It is similar to the  “I scratch your back and you scratch mine” approach. The idea that God punishes us or individuals for transgressions using floods and earthquakes doesn’t comport with the “God is Love” idea. This situation would make the scales way out of balance because I am human and therefore imperfect and God is, well, God.  My love is imperfect. It would be a losing battle to try and match God’s love. So what are we, as imperfect humans to do. I need to turn my eyes from the heavens to my fellow imperfect beings and try to love them as best I can.  If I am constantly looking up looking for something I cannot see then I cannot look my fellow human being in the eye who I can see. It’s in the eye of our fellow human beings that we find God.

21 Thus, as the Father raises the dead and gives them life, so the Son gives life to anyone he chooses;

22 for the Father judges no one; he has entrusted all judgement to the Son, (John 5:21-22)

Loving takes a bit of work. Getting into the groove especially if someone bugs the hell out of you because of their actions and words is very difficult. The alternative is nativism, racism, phobias and hatred. Love is a lot easier to maintain than hate. We aren’t perfect but we can try.

and so it goes…