Acknowledge that we have a fault in us, admit it, learn from it and move forward. To never admit shortcomings or to blame someone else for what is a shortcoming in us, is lying plain and simple. Heck, we got kicked out of the garden because we were flawed and not gods. People who are declared or declare themselves to be gods usually end in a bad way. It’s too hard trying to be perfect. It’s OK to be wrong. It’s OK to say we misspoke. We are just giving ourselves a heads up that we aren’t gods…not even close.
This thing we call life is a journey forward not stasis. We move ahead, we make choices and decisions, some good and some not so good. We humbly learn from our mistakes, make adjustments and try to overcome them. Throughout history there have been “leaders” that have not learned from their errors and have suffered the consequences. Empires have fallen because of this.
When the upright abandons uprightness and does wrong and dies, he dies because of the wrong which he himself has done.
Similarly, when the wicked abandons wickedness to become law-abiding and upright, he saves his own life. (Ezekiel 18: 26-27)
Best friends are great counselors that call us on our “stuff” and give us room to change, often with their help. To help build community, I think one needs to see the value in the other, however different from themselves. Righteousness is something that needs work on a daily basis. Self-righteousness is a recipe for disaster.
But I say this to you, anyone who is angry with a brother will answer for it before the court; anyone who calls a brother “Fool” will answer for it before the Sanhedrin; and anyone who calls him “Traitor” will answer for it in hell fire. (Matt 5:22)
The road back to the garden, often with scattered and unseen potholes, is not journeyed alone.
…and so it goes…